Happy January 30th!
Today is my little son, David’s 4th birthday and we are planning for a fun filled day of celebrating! With a full schedule ahead aside from my daily list of goals, it will definitely take some committed, focused discipline to accomplish everything I set out to do. Then we spend the second half of the day with the kids for a few fun hours at one of their favorite places! Can I get everything done? I am determined!
For now, I’ve set aside a dedicated amount of time to write my blog post. I have been reflecting on the first month 2019, all of my goals (I realize now that the intended post of sharing my 2019 goals was never written! Oops! I’ll share them here!), and my progress, so far, as I prepare to continue on in February!
This is my accountability chart, which I am so glad to have done, because it has helped me keep track of my progress while keeping me accountable. There have been a handful of times that I’ve gone to fill in completed goals, only to realize that I haven’t done something, so I’d make sure to do it quickly before bed. It’s probably not clear on photo, but let me share my 2019 goals with you!
–Wake up by 6:30am/Go to bed by 10:30pm: Being uncomfortably pregnant, and with a 2 year old that only recently began sleeping through the night in her own bed- for the most part- has made this goal difficult, but I continue on, working toward consistency. I tend to wake earlier when I go to bed at a decent time, so I’ve put aside my night owl ways and made the effort to go to sleep earlier to help encourage early rising. Next year, I plan on setting a 5:30am wake up goal. One step at a time!
-Ten minutes of tidying: Mess and chaos overwhelms and stresses me, and with my physical pregnancy pains and limited energy, I can’t always spend hours cleaning the house. Martin Luther King said “If you can’t do great things, do small things greatly“, right? Well, this is my small thing that has made a great difference. I discuss it in detail on my post about decluttering, but in summary, I spend a few minutes a day cleaning what I can within that timeframe. I’ve also made sure the kids do their part with their toys, which has helped me. It’s a huge accomplishment for me to be able to say that, so far, our home with 3 very busy, active kids with lots of toys, has been pretty tidy for the last 30 days! #winning
-Bible devotional: I’d like to be that virtuous person who reads chapters in their bible each day, going from Genesis to Revelation every year. But, honestly, I’m not, and I’ve tried. I can start with what I know I can do- insert my handy dandy YouVersion bible app. I really enjoy the topic focused devotion plans on the app, so I am doing one daily devotional reading each morning when I wake. It’s a great way to start my day!
-Share one positive message a day: Because, positivity is contagious! Why not share that with others?
-Listen & Share a Daily Song: I love music. Music can uplift and energize when I’m feeling tired and unmotivated. So, picking a song I really like is part of my morning routine!
-Hug my family daily: I get so caught up in the day and that I will end the day realizing that I had not given any of the most important people in my life affection! I’ve read that a hug that last at least 6 seconds helps people relax, decrease stress, and increase happiness through the release of dopamine. Therefore, my daily goal list includes giving my husband and children at least one good, long hug when they say good morning. My kids now come in looking for their morning hugs when they wake up! It warms my heart that it means so much to them!
-Laugh daily: This one tends to be one of the easier ones, because I live with a man who makes me laugh all the time. But, we all have those days. The gloomier days, when nothing seems to go well, and you just feel down. On those days, I make sure I do not go to bed without laughing- whether it be a YouTube video of one of my favorite comics, or a few short clips by one of the hilarious social media personalities I follow. Laughter is the best medicine!
-Work on blog: Initially, my intention for this goal was to POST daily (I must have subconsciously known that wouldn’t work out when I wrote it on my chart as “work on” blog). I now know that it isn’t easy to post one daily, especially if you want them to be purposeful. It takes me easily an hour or more WHEN I have a complete plan and idea for my post. Some days, I have nothing to give, and I don’t see the point of pouring from an empty cup. I now focused on doing something for my blog daily. Whether it be noting down post ideas, start writing and noting down thoughts or quotes for a post that are relevant or important to share, etc. If I have a full post idea (like today’s), I will dedicate the time to complete it.
-Journaling: I suppress my thoughts, feelings, and emotions internally often, especially the negative ones. One aspect of the happiness goal for this year that I am committed to is releasing all of my thoughts and feelings from the day, so that I don’t hold on to them. I love writing, but have never been consistent in doing so with journaling. This journal has been such an effective solution. I reflect on the day, nightly. I choose and write down a bible verse in relation to the emotion or thought of the day (more time in the word!), I release it all on paper, and then I end my journaling by writing down things I’m grateful for and my personal prayer requests to the Lord. I always feel better after journal time, and I haven’t missed a day yet! I don’t want to!
-Daily Fitness: Four days a week, this is an easy box to fill, because I am teaching at the gym. The other three days, not so much. Especially being in the final and most difficult trimester of all of my pregnancies. However, this daily goal makes me mindful of my physical activity. So, I try to do SOMETHING on the days that I’m not teaching; whether that be stretching to help with the nerve pain, or making sure I’m not sitting/laying for extended periods of time.
-School time: I’m back in school and committed to my success! Since I’m taking 3 classes, all online, it is so important to keep myself accountable in this area, because no one else will and failure is not an option! This is why it’s on my chart, AND my regular daily to do list. Focusing on school daily at some level, I am less likely to fall behind, or miss upcoming assignments/deadlines. So far, it is working!
-Track Nutrition: The purpose behind this goal will change once the baby arrives, but for now, it is to get in the habit of tracking my caloric intake to see where I can improve , and to hold myself accountable. Post-baby, this will be the 80 in my 80/20 plan to release all of the baby weight as soon as possible, and fuel my body for the fitness goals that are set for the “post-baby” part of the year!
-Floss daily: I know flossing is a very important part of oral hygiene, but I’ve never done it consistently enough to make it a daily habit. Yet, it’s one habit I’ve always wanted to incorporate! So far, I haven’t missed a night!
Those are my daily goals, and the greatest chunk of my 2019 goals. I’ve also set 3 monthly goals:
-Read 1 book a month: I love reading, but reading time is a luxury that I can’t always afford. I’ve made it a priority by setting this goal. I know that even with my full schedule, I can dedicate a few pages a day to a book I enjoy. January’s book was Michelle Obama’s Becoming. In reading her story, I was surprised to have connected with her in a way I’d never have thought I would! I highly recommend it!
-Have 1 date night a month: It hasn’t been easy for us to schedule one-on-one time as a married couple since having our youngest two kids. Mike and I have a very close marriage, and we connect as much as we can throughout each day, but the childless bonding moments have become far and few in between! To change that, we have committed to carving out at least a couple of hours each month with no kids, away from home, and doing things we enjoy doing together. JUST US! It’s difficult because we don’t have family nearby, and I have deep trust issues with hiring babysitters. That is something I hope I can be released from by doing this. After baby Caleb comes, I believe may be more of a challenge, but I am committed! My marriage, and my husband, deserve and need it!
-Zumba choreography: I love dance. Zumba is my current dance outlet, and I love creating choreography to songs I love. Yet, I don’t. I rarely “have the time” to even learn existing choreography for songs I want to use in class, so I stick to what I already know. I want to change that. This was a monthly goal for January, but it will, instead, be a post-baby monthly goal, because of the difficulty I have with pregnancy nerve pain. I’ve promised my students videos to follow online for years, and this is the year I will commit to deliver!
I’ve mentioned “Post-baby” goals a few times, so far. Those are the goals that I have set for the year, but will start working on after I deliver! Those include these last few:
-Attend at least 3 dance workshops: I want to brush up and improve on my dance skills. One of the goals I’ve set for “Happiness 2019” is to do more of what brings me joy, and dance has been a love of mine since I was a little girl. I don’t plan on being some high profile celebrity dancer anytime soon (or ever), so I have found other avenues to express my love for dance, through master classes and workshops!
-Train for a 13.1: I enjoy running but have never done it with a purpose. Participating in races has been a goal of mine since my firstborn joined us. This year just seems to be the year that I ACT on long-standing dreams and goals of mine, the 13.1 no different from the rest! This goal is set between April and October, with the 2nd part of this goal being that I need to actually sign up and RUN in a race by December!
-Isabody Challenge: I found a company 2 years ago that promotes health and wellness through nutritional supplementation, and I was hooked from the start. As someone who is health and fitness-conscious, I appreciate the added benefits to supplementing good nutrition with great supplementation (Note: NOT IN PLACE OF IT. I’m not one of those people who think you can supplement your way completely to a healthy fit lifestyle! Healthy living through fitness and proper nutrition is my passion and my career focus. The misleading messages and marketing out there by those who are looking to make a buck are beyond frustrating to me). The company I personally prefer to buy from rewards those dedicated to breaking barriers and shattering their fitness goals with a 16-week challenge, the Isabody challenge, where they have a multiple chances to win cash prizes, trips, and great perks just for completing the challenge. I’ve attempted this challenge twice before, never completing it. Third time’s the charm right?
These goals mean the world to me. They are all connected to areas of my life that I’ve neglected, and interests that bring me joy, but have been dormant due to life and all its obstacles and distractions. If you’ve looked at the chart, you’ll see some blank squares. I haven’t perfectly executed all of these goals, but I will not quit pursuing consistency. Seeing the improvement in my mood and outlook, in my home, my relationship with my children and husband, my ability to be consistent- seeing all of these positive additions in my life- motivates me to keep pushing forward, and working daily to achieve success. Each month may not be perfect, but I strongly believe that at the end of this year, I will be a better, HAPPIER person, wife, mother, friend because of these small daily and monthly actions. I will not stay down if I fall! Too often, people set yearly goals/resolutions, only to give up when they slip up. You don’t fail when you fall, as long as you get back up. The failure comes when you give up and quit!
Are you working toward personal goals in 2019? What are they? (Please share in comments! I love connecting with other goal minded people and learning what they strive for!). Please, don’t give up on your goals! You owe it to yourself to keep moving forward!
Have a great Wednesday!